Buying guides
Expert, no-nonsense guides to help you choose the right product — with clear, sourced safety advice.
How to choose lube: the complete buying guide
The right lube depends on its **base** (water, silicone, hybrid or oil), where you use it and how sensitive you are. For most people **water-based** is the safest starting point: it works with every condom and every toy. Silicone lasts longer but never on silicone toys, and oil does not belong with a latex condom.
Read guide →Anal for beginners: the complete buying guide
Starting anal safely comes down to three things: **plenty of lube** (the anus does not self-lubricate), a toy **with a flared base** so it can't slip inside, and **building up slowly** without forcing. Pain is always a stop signal, never use numbing gel.
Read guide →Massage & edible oil: the complete buying guide
Massage oil is for the **skin and foreplay**, not as a lubricant or internally. Crucially, oil-based products **degrade latex condoms** and don't belong vaginally. For the massage choose liquid oil, a low-temperature candle or an edible flavoured oil; for penetration switch to a water- or silicone-based lube.
Read guide →Condom size: how to measure the right fit (guide)
Condom size is determined mainly by the **girth** of your erect penis, not its length. Measure the circumference mid-shaft, divide by about 3.14 for the diameter, and use the **nominal width** as your size. A well-fitting condom is comfortable, doesn't slip and doesn't pinch.
Read guide →Which vibrator should you buy? The complete guide
The best vibrator depends on **which stimulation** you want (clitoral, internal or both) and your experience. For beginners an **air-pulse** (clitoral) toy or a **bullet** is a gentle, non-overwhelming start. Always check for **medical-grade silicone** and a CE mark, and use water-based lube with it.
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